Sexual Behavioral Differences in Men and Women

I recently engaged in a conversation on Zoe Brain's blog here. It's interesting that men generally focus on the appearances of their partners while women generally focus on how they appear to their partners, and that male-to-female transsexuals seem to focus more on their appearing as women in their sexual fantasies, pleasing their partners. BBL thinks those fantasies mean autogynephilia, that they do the transsexual transition because they get hot at the thought of themselves as women, but they're really men deep down. But reading the whole information, it does appear to be the case that those fantasies are part of a general tendency of male-to-female transsexuals to think of themselves as women.